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A series of topics related to preconception, pregnancy, labor, birth, bonding, and post partum issues. Feel free to make suggestions for future topics.

Posts Tagged ‘Birth’

WHERE TO HAVE A BABY: HOME / HOSPITAL / BIRTHCENTER

Wednesday, April 6th, 2011


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When making a decision of where to have your baby there are a score of questions to consider:

1.   Measure of Risk vs. Control.

2.  Pain Management vs. Natural Coping Tools (How do you personally view medicine: do you trust or mistrust the medical model medicine or would prefer the alternative coping tools?)

3.  Baby-Centered ASPECT:  considering what’s important to you:

a. Separation of the baby at birth.

b.  Potential Medications going into your Baby. (These could be allopathic or alternative medicines.)

4.  Where do you feel SAFE / SUPPORTED? Most important question to ask yourself.

5.   What are your greatest FEARS with birth?

6.  Why are you choosing the place to have your baby?

7.  Have you ever SEEN a birth? TV, internet, film, live?

8.   What was YOUR BIRTH like?  What about your siblings?  Grandmothers?

9.   Were you breastfed? How long?

10.  What is an image of an IDEAL BIRTH?

11.  AUTHORITY, what does that mean to you?  You may need to let someone else make decisions for you and your baby. If this is your preference,  labor doulas/assistants,  will give you information regarding personal choices and you will either assume that power or give the power away be it to a medical caregiver, doula, childbirth educator, sister, friend, or a mother.

Homebirth and Hospital environments are at one end of the spectrum and a Birth Center is a happy medium whether it is located in hospital or free standing out of hospital.

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When I interviewed a mother of two, planning a Home Birth, the following were MOST important to her:

1.  EMPOWERMENT:  Feeling like she had some sort of say/power/control/connection with what was happening during her pregnancy, labor and birth.  Surrounding herself with a TEAM of women to support  HER NEEDS, not their agenda’s.

2. READING: two favorite books:

a. Nurturing Your Unborn Child, By Thomas Verny, Pam Weintraub

b. Continuum Concept, Jean Liedloff

3.  MEDICAL PERSON:  Visits with the MIDWIFE, even though the midwife was not warm and fuzzy, she was supportive to the mother’s wishes and did not ‘yes’ her at the prenatals.

a.  She had a NUTRITIONIST on staff who had the mother write down one week’s diet. The nutritionist went over it with her to make sure she was getting all the appropriate nutrients included in her diet.

This mother, who’d not eaten yogur,t was told by a friend, “EAT YOGURT…you need yogurt.”  The midwife asked her if she even liked  yogurt and the mother said NO…so the suggestion was to bone up on other protein and calcium foods  she DID eat and like. She didn’t do something because someone told her to do it.

4.  DOULA: Having another set of hands, a friend, a doula, someone who could communicate with her without even speaking…knowing exactly where to massage, or bring her something to drink or eat was invaluable!  Chemistry was very important!!.

(THE PARENTS MAY BE INTERVIEWING THE DOULA and THE DOULA IS INTERVIEWING THE PARENTS.)

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When I interviewed a mother of three, pregnant with her fourth child, planning on a Hospital Birth, the following were MOST important to her:

1. EXERCISE: Helped labor go more smoothly, body felt more toned, strong during pregnancy and labor.  Recovery was faster, more in touch with her body, and found exercising everyday was really important.

a.  With one baby, she exercised more often than with the others. As a result of this, she feels her baby girl is much stronger in her body than her other children because of that.

2. MASSAGE: Towards the end of the pregnancy and even earlier stages she was having regular massage. (once a week.) It helps to release the pain in her body, the back, etc. and helped her to feel more comfortable, particularly in the last few months.  It was a time for bonding with her baby and her doula.  It’s important the doula bond with the baby as well.

3. DOULA: Incredible, ultimate support to have someone there with the knowledge, experience and insights as to what might happen next, or what to do when things were happening.  Doula’s know what to ask and how to make her more comfortable.

4. READING: 10 books at my bedside…can’t really remember…all.

a.  Week to Week book on Development: her favorite:

b.   Pregnancy Week-by-Week [Spiral-Bound] Jane McDougall

c.  Was reading some book on a special breathing technique from Switzerland…never really helped me…second birth pushing stage was really important what she did that time..blow instead of push hard!!.

5. OBSTETRICIAN: She chose an OB instead of a midwife.  The bad thing about it was it was a group practice instead of a private practice and it was random who she would get for the birth.  She felt they were all good doctors, but didn’t like the randomness.

6. HOSPITAL SETTING:  She had expectations of what it would be like. Checking in was annoying, but she dealt with that.  She was pleased with the nurses and staff overall and  felt most safe to have her babies there.

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When I interviewed a mother with her first pregnancy, planning on a Birth Center, the following were MOST important to her:

1.  CONVENIENT FOR INSURANCE: because they decided not to have a home birth, this was the best of both worlds.

2.  CHOICE REASON: The husband was not comfortable to do the home birth, perfect balance in his mind.  RISK FREE:  to him meant being IN a birth center, close to the facilities that could help out, “just in case”.

There was no luxuriating in the Birth Center.  They wanted her out within 12 hours postpartum. She wanted to be out because the nurses were mad at her she wouldn’t get out of the tub when she was pushing so in turn, they were less gentle with her baby.

3. DOULA: was key to her birth because her doula was a ‘water specialist.’  This was the most important factor for her…more than her medical caregiver who knew nothing about water birth. Her 1st birth was on the obstetrical floor and the 1st underwater birth at that hospital. Her 2nd child, was at the same hospital in the birth center this time, underwater.

4. PREPARATION FOR BIRTHS:  Because of the desire to have a waterbirth this mother read a number of waterbirth books, articles and watched one video out at that time.  This was 1993 & 1996.  The father’s comments were, “laboring and birthing in water is more like making love.” The childbirth education was mandatory for them to be in the birth center but they did not find it particularly valuable.

5. BIRTH PLAN: The obstetrician suggested and encouraged the mother to have a BIRTH PLAN and to hang it in the birth room on the wall so the nurses and other staff people could see her wishes.  The DOULA also supported the idea.  It was more important in the preparation of doing it because it helped her be clear about what she wanted and not wanted.

6. BEFORE PG – COLONICS: With the first pregnancy, she did a lot of them  in order to get ready for the pregnancy which helped her feel more balanced and clean.  At 36 years old, she conceived her child on the first try.  With the second child almost 3 years later, she didn’t do any colonics and it took 3 months to conceive.

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When I interviewed a father of three, pregnant with their fourth child, planning on a Hospital Birth, the following were MOST important to him:

1.  WHY CHOSE A HOSPITAL BIRTH: He didn’t really draw a line with their decision to go to a hospital as a major decision.  He realize he’d never been at a home birth and had nothing  to compareit to other than, several couples he know who’d completely gone the other way and had no doctors visits with the following results:

1.  delivered a stillborn at home with a midwife,

2. child almost died because the cord was tangled around its neck,

3.  delivered at 27 weeks, had a C section and the baby is still in the NICU (had she not gotten there asap, it would have been disastrous).

For him, understanding  the protocol in the hospital was essential not because he had to obey it, but because being in the hospital environment offered him options in case something went wrong. Options that might not be available quick enough when doing a home birth.  Although these kinds of complications are a small possibility in childbirth, his understanding is there is little time after a complication occurs to make decisions.

2. DOULA: -Was helpful as being well educated and conveying, not everything he hospital requires HAS to be done when the hospital wants it done.

3.  WIFE CARE: It was very important to this father to make sure his partner is able to feel calm and  she was in good hands to focus on her “delivery.”  This was achieved by the combination of having the right food, water, doctor and level of support from everyone in a relaxed manner.

4.  COMMUNICATIONS WITH Obstetrician: His prior experiences with an obstetrician in a hospital was the understanding there might be times in the process when the parents are questioned. If that happens not to take it personally. This was a tough one because the parents have to have enough self-confidence to stay centered in that situation.

5.  SUMMARY: He thinks the most important thing is to understand that being well prepared requires good education, That’s where I think a doula or birth assistant invaluable!

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From MY perspective, the MOST important  key elements at any birth:

BREATH / BODY / BABY

1. Stay connected to your BREATH, which is your heart coherence center.

2. Stay present by being IN your BODY as opposed to leaving or numbing your body.

3. Always keep the lines of communication and connection open with your BABY.

TRUTH AS I KNOW IT:

As a birth caregiver, I can get the word out there but ultimately, it is up to the mother and baby to integrate, assimilate and implement the information or suggestions to the best of their ability.  There are no failures, there is only experience and from that experience is the potential for learning, growth and finding  peace with whatever unfolds.

HeartKeepers™: Birth Caregivers for the 21st Century

Tuesday, April 5th, 2011

HeartKeepers™:  Birth Caregivers for the 21st Century

If the 20th Century has been considered the ‘Century of Brain Studies,’

I believe the 21st Century will be the ‘Century of Heart Studies.’

Over the last 27 years I have been reading about heart focused healing, studying the heart coherence sciences through Institute of HeartMath: http://www.heartmath.org/, reading numerous books, articles, websites, watching films and participating in teleconferences on the topic.

I realized after my first introductory course with the HeartMath, l birth caregivers are, ‘HeartKeepers™’.  We hold the space for every member of the team to express themselves as well as advocate for the parents and baby.

As a result of this, on March 27, 2011, presented a 3 hour teleconference sharing the latest heart field research, clarify the difference between Quantum and Neutonian physics and explain how the energy fields around our bodies affect the dynamics of  people  around as well as a global affect.

If you are interested in learning more you may purchase the mp3 time sensitive, hyperlink and PDF’s to this teleconference by clicking here: http://www.birthbalance.com/courses/heart.asp

For your benefit, I’ve added the objectives, pdf’s and course outline below.

OBJECTIVES:

•  You will be able to define what a meme is, give examples of birth meme’s and develop your own meme as it applies to your personal and professional life.

•  You will be able to define the difference and understand the significance of the difference between Newtonian Physics and Quantum Physics.

•  You will be able to understand from an individual and global perspective what a Field of Energy is, as well as give examples of each.

•  You will be able to list and explain 5 recognizable responses of physiological coherence.

•  You will be able to recall 3 revolutionary discoveries about the heart and it’s intrinsic nervous system.

•  You will be able to list 5 scientific discoveries about the heart sciences.

•  You will be introduced to and experience as well as understand how to apply 3 DreamBirth Imagery™ exercises to your personal and professional life.

PDF’S

–        Extensive Bibliography of books, films, websites which include heart coherence studies and conscious fertility/pregnancy and birth.

–        3 DreamBirth Imagery™ Exercises:

  • 1. Blue Vase – energizing and detoxification exercise for you and your clients.
  • 2. Solar Plexus – build self confidence, enhances personal power and bringing in clients and work.
  • 3. Duality – taking two opposing perceptions and dissolving the illusion of separation into oneness

(The PDF’s will be MAILED to you AFTER the teleconference.)

COURSE OUTLINE

1. Introductions

2. Logistics:

•  Recommended supplies: paper (for notes), colored pens/pencils, 2 Q-TIP’S

•  FOOD/DRINK:  We will be together for 3 hours and you need to hydrate and                       nourish yourself for an optimal heart and brain connection.

3. Memes

•  Definition

•  Birth Memes

•  Your own Meme

•  Q&A

4. The Field of Energy

•  Definition and origin of the “UNIVERSAL FIELD”

•  Difference between Newtonian and Quantum Physics

• Dr. Bruce Lipton  • Lynn McTaggart  • Gregg Braden • Dr. Emoto  •  Abraham Hicks

•  Heart Math Institute Studies (Intro)

• Q&A

5.   Heart Sciences (vs. Brain Science)

•  History

•  Research and Science behind Heart Studies

•  Coherency vs. incoherent

•  Discuss Bibliography –refer to books, authors, films

•  Continuation of Studies:  Heart Math Institute™

•  Q&A

6. Dream Birth Imagery™

•  Background

• Exercises + Discussion:

-Blue Vase

-Solar Plexus

-Duality

•  Q&A

 

A  Tomato has four chambers and is red. The  heart has four chambers and is red. All of the research shows tomatoes  are loaded with lycopine and are indeed pure heart  and blood food.


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