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Birth Balance Blog

A series of topics related to preconception, pregnancy, labor, birth, bonding, and post partum issues. Feel free to make suggestions for future topics.

Archive for January, 2009

Water Birth Anyone?

Friday, January 23rd, 2009

So you’ve decided to have a water birth…have you asked  crucial questions about this choice?  Are you willing to let go of the possibly of birthing your baby in water?  Are you willing to let go of the fact you may or not even want to be in water during the labor or birth?  Would you be open to actually listening to your body and your baby moment to moment and if the insight moves you to ‘get out of the tub’ at the moment of the birth,  would you be willing to listen to that?  What if you’ve been in the water for over four hours and it’s time to get out, and you don’t want to?

Becoming attached to outcomes is the greatest saboteur. Whether it’s deciding to have an epidural or birth your baby in a tub of water, let it go and see what happens. It’s a great lesson to relinquish the ego and trust whatever unfolds to the highest good of you and your baby.  Now, this doesn’t mean you don’t rent the tub, do a trial set up and follow through with your plans.  It’s about keeping things in perspective and releasing the attachments.

After teaching childbirth education for the last 22 years, I advise people to keep options and possibilities open;  from having a baby in the kitchen 1/2 hour after the membranes rupture to ending up with a cesarean section.  Labor and birth is a mystery.  Being aware of thoughts and emotions each moment, keeps one tuned in and tapped into the intuitive reservoir of information and hormones.  Choices become effortless, clarity prevails and mothers and babies move through the ancient rite of passage called birth with less resistance and releasing control.

Because this planet, our bodies and babies are predominantly water, most people have an affinity to be in water.  Whether it’s a shower or bath, the experience of water, absence of gravity, brings a sense of softness, openness, pliability to the skin, bones, ligaments and tendons, not only in the mother, also in the baby.

So, enjoy the stories, the research, the photographs in this website and dream of welcoming your baby into the world with a sense of connection, ease and love.

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Becoming the Dreamer of the Dream

Thursday, January 22nd, 2009

When people ask you if you remember your dreams or not, what do you say? “Oh, I never dream…or I don’t remember my dreams…I don’t believe in dreams…I use to remember my dreams and now I don’t…I dream all the time in technicolor!”  Well,  let me tell you, there is more to dreaming than dreaming. Meaning, dreams don’t just happen when you are asleep…they are happening  right now, as you are reading this.  You are in a ‘waking state dream.’  You might have daydreams in the waking state dream, and dreams when you sleep.  The crucial question is, are you ‘awake’ or ‘asleep’ in any of your dream states?   What does it mean to be awake? What does it mean to be asleep?

‘Awake’ is when you are ‘aware’ of what is going on around you moment to moment.  You live in a state of responding vs. reacting. You let go of attachments to things, comments, ideas, whether positive or negative. ‘Asleep’ is when you take things personally, believe in victimhood, attach yourself to comments, ideas, your body, things, and spend time reacting to everything.

In a world which is basically in a state of madness and fear, (asleep), staying awake can be a bit of a challenge. There is that ray of hope and change still permeating the atmosphere, globally from the Inauguration activities.  And how long will the ‘glow’ last in your life, whether you are awake, daydreaming or sleeping?

Where do you live?  How do you integrate with your environment?  Where are your thoughts?  Do you even believe it’s possible to be living, eating, breathing ‘awakeness’ in your life?  If you don’t believe, you won’t receive. That’s the way the energies work.  When you become aware of the subtleties of life and where your mind is based on what you feel, good or bad, is the key to what you draw into your life.

After 22 years of being in the birth world, I find during the labors and births, the team leaves the planet and go to the moon.  My waking state dream and few sleeping state moments, during the labor become filled with clear, strong important images.  I have learned to listen to the clear inner voice coming through as I tune in and let go of anything that might impede my resistance to the moment. And magic happens.

The Birth of the Blog

Tuesday, January 20th, 2009


January 20, 2009: A day of hope, tears, change, inspiration, humility, new found freedom and possibilities of something different, than what has been before.  What better day to begin my blog, my dreams, my rockets of desire for change within each woman and partner preparing to carry a child, change within each woman and partner carrying a child, change within each and every medical and/or birth caregiver. Changes that release the fear, embrace the trust and create the opportunity for redefining childbirth.  We can choose a different history. We can plant healthier seeds.  A mutual investment of energy, understanding and knowledge, by starting with ourselves.  

What are we feeling?  What are we thinking? What are we saying? Most importantly what are we DOING with those thoughts, words and feelings, moment to moment? Everything carries energy and emits a frequency. How will we step into the future to inspire the world with each and every child’s potential whether in uetero or out?  We must work together in this time of awakening toward a better age. Emotions birthed by the sacrifices of those who came before, teach us there CAN be another way. How?  

Through taping into human energy potential and available resources inside and outside each and every one of us. May we realize it is not one person who will make the change.  It is the change that has been sparked in each one of us to do it better and collectively ripple out to the planet. We are indeed experiencing a shift of consciousness.

How will you ride the wave?

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