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Feelings of Fear

Wednesday, April 15th, 2009

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What do you do when you are sitting alone in your thoughts and all you can do is sit in fear?  FEARFalse Evidence Appearing Real….hmmm Fear.  Others say it represents: F— Everything And Run!  I like this one better. It gives me an excuse to run away from it all.  Leave, move away…think, act, do something else…as if removing my body from where I am is going to take away the feelings.  I cannot get away from it all. It is where I am, right here, right now.  Even as I write this, the fear remains, UNLESS I choose something different.  Abraham Hicks says fear and trust cannot occupy the same space in time.  So, we choose, moment to moment, hopefully taking full responsibility in that choice.  

Neale Walsch, author of Conversations With God Says:  On this day of your life, dear friend, I believe God wants you to know……that your fears have stopped you before, but they need not stop you now. What’s the worst that can happen? And if that  happened, what would happen then? And if that happened, then what? Now…if you give in to your fears, where will that leave you? Right where you are now? And if that’s where you want to be, why is the other option even a little bit exciting to you?

Eckhart Tolle, Author of The Power of Now, says fear is part of the ‘pain body.’ The ‘pain body’ is the accumulated emotional pain from the past and an aspect of the egoic sense of Self.  It is not always active. There are dormant and active periods. When it is dormant, you can live with yourself and so can others. It is still problematic and you can be a nuisance to yourself and others.  Yet, when that sense of Self becomes energized, active, it’s based on the accumulated pain of the past that everyone comes into the world with, genetically, collectively, personally through childhood and into parenthood.  Fear, an aspect of the  ‘pain body’ is a field of alive energy, contracted, temporary life form, that lives in each of us.  

Maryanne Williamson, from the Course of Miracles says, “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask oursleves, Who am I to be brillian, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?  Actually, who are you NOT to be? Your playing small does not serve the world.  There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you.  We are all meant to shine, as children do.  We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us.  It’s not just in some of us: it’s in everyone.  And as we let our own light shine, we unconscioulsy give other people permission to do the same.  As we ar liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

There is a wonderful book entitled, When Fear Falls Away, The Story of a Sudden Awakening, by Jan Frazier. Jan’s website is: www.whenfearfallsaway.com.  

It is known, the fundamental emotion which creates havoc during pregnancy and labor is fear. Fear causes pain in the bodies;  physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually. The physical body is the grossest and densest of the bodies and the last to receive the information. (Unless you are putting your hand on a hot stove and it will be the FIRST of the bodies to receive the information!) When a woman or partner or birth caregiver is in a state of fear, adrenaline and catecholemines (fight or flight hormones) are being secreted which stop the flow of oxytocin (the love hormone) and endorphines and opiates (pain reducers).

So, when we are sitting in our ‘field of fear,’ is it only our own fear or everyone else’s fear in the collective field?  Maybe it’s both, like Tolle says. 

Whew…I am breathing it all off to the left. Remembering what I have forgotten which is I am so much more than it.


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