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A series of topics related to preconception, pregnancy, labor, birth, bonding, and post partum issues. Feel free to make suggestions for future topics.

The Future For Our Children…

February 18th, 2009


TO ALL WHO “SURVIVED” THE 1950’s, 60’s and 70’s…  
Jay Leno,  Television Talk Show Host   
(February 2009)

We were born to mothers who smoked and drank while they were pregnant. They also took aspirin, ate blue cheese dressing, tuna from a can and they didn’t get tested for diabetes. We were put to sleep on our tummies in baby cribs covered with bright colored lead-base paints. We had no childproof lids on medicine bottles, locks on doors of cabinets and when we rode our bikes, we wore baseball caps and not helmets on our heads. We rode in cars with no infant car seats, no booster seats, no seat belts, no air bags, and riding in the back of a pick-up truck on a warm sunny day was a sumertime treat for every kid and teenager and family dog.

We drank water from the garden hose and not from a bottle. We shared one soft drink with four friends, from one bottle, and no one died from it. We ate cupcakes, white bread, real butter and things cooked with bacon grease. We drank Kool-Aid made with real sugar and rarely ever were any of us overweight. Why? Because we were always outside playing… that’s why! We would leave home in the morning and play all day, as long as we were back by the time the streetlights came on. No one was able to reach us all day and we were O.K.!

We would spend hours building our go-carts out of scraps and then ride them down the hill, only to find out we forgot the brakes. After running into the bushes a few times we learned to solve the problem. We did not have Playstations, Nintendo’s and X-boxes. There were no video games, no 150 channels on cable, no video movies or DVD’s, no surround-sound or CD’s, no cell phones, no personal computers, no Internet and no chat rooms. WE HAD FRIENDS and we went outside and found them!

We fell out of trees, got cut, got a few broke bones, and there were no lawsuits from these incidents. We ate worms and mud pies made from dirt, and the worms did not live in us forever. We were given BB guns for our 10th birthdays, made up games with sticks and tennis balls and, although we were told it would happen, we did not put out everyone’s eyes. We rode bikes or walked to a friend’s house and knocked on the door or rang the bell, or just walked in and talked to them. Little League had tryouts and not everyone made the team.. Those who didn’t had to learn to deal with disappointment. Imagine that! And the idea of a parent bailing us out if we broke the law was unheard of. They actually sided with the law- and the law actually sided with the PARENTS.

These generations have produced some of the best risk-takers, problem solvers and inventors in history. We had freedom, failure, success and responsibility, and we learned how to deal with ALL of it. If you are one of the lucky ones who were fortunate enough to grow up in America BEFORE the lawyers and the government regulated childhood out of existence, congratulations! Try not to cry today when you look at your grandchild’s smiling sweet face, try not to think of what a pittiful excuse for a childhood they’re going to have compared to yours. Cry when you think of THEIR children.

“With hurricanes, tornadoes, fires out of control, mud slides, flooding, severe storms tearing up the country from one end to another, and with the threat of bird flu and terrorist attacks, are we sure this is a good time to take God out of the Pledge of Allegiance?”

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TImes have changed and here is a child today who is reaching out to the world with an important question. Tell Me Why

‘Birth Dissonance’ Into ‘Birth Consonance’

February 10th, 2009


Are you ready to stop pouring your life energy into defining yourself as a separate entity and allow yourself to beome undefined? Going from wasted energy put into egoic identity can be invested into a new and more interesting purpose.  A whole different perception, way of being and knowing, gettting and doing or not doing, when interacting with the Universe?

The dreamstate is a magical place and we are a part of it.  We ARE it.  We are the miracles, the mysteries and we keep looking outside ourselves, giving our power away, for something or someone else to create it all or fix it for us; TENS machines, epidurals, pitocin, doula, acupuncture, homeopathy, cesareans, prosteglandin gell, a birth tub, midwife, doctor, partner.

A psychological term to describe the discomfort we feel when our thoughts, (seeming reality) and beliefs, (feelings and emotions) come into conflict is:  Cognitive Dissonance.  I see it all the time in pregnancy or particularly in labor and birth.  The woman get’s signs from her body and the baby that it is not ready to come.  Her doctor says, “The baby needs to come now.”  She is in conflict with her belief and the thoughts instilled in her by the doctor.  The problem begins as the pressure builds and the woman allows herself out of fear to go with the doctor’s demands.  

What does she know?  This is her first child?  This doctor has ‘delivered’ thousands of babies. They are the expert, yet her belief and inner knowing is, ‘the baby is not ready to come.’  The problem excellerates as she gets induced and her body is not dilating.  Even with all the drugs, everyone is confused about the “insufficient cervix,” or the “inability to progress.” No one is taking into consideration the most important element in the center of the drama.  The mother’s belief’s conflicting with her thoughts.

I call this ‘Birth Dissonance’.  Where the internal belief collides with external reality. Where self and not-self come into contact/conflict.  We are not innocent by-standers or victims of our experience. We are the shapers of our dreamstate reality.  Until we get it, really get it, by standing up for, falling apart from, letting go of, surrendering into the opposite of where we have been all our lives, things are not going to change.  And we will continue to blame everyone and everything for our lives being the way they are. Falling apart is coming together.

Society has put billions of dollars into medications, illegal, legal drugs to separate mind from body.  Something to put you to sleep, something to make you wake up. Something to make you dialate, (pitocin)  something to numb the pain, (epidurals) and when the epidural stops the pain and the contractions, there’s more pitocin to regulate it back to par.  (Providing all systems are ‘go’ for the woman being induced.)

What people are looking for is ‘Birth Consonance,’ an end to discomfort, not the delusion. But the truth is, the consonance sought  can only be found in deeper unconsciousness which requires reduction of dissonance.  How does one get to reach that natural, integrated level of consonance?  Through serenity and tranquility or diving to the depths of the self-delusion and swimming through the muck until one gets to the surface and is able to see and know the insanity and madness they have been buying into all their life.

So, are you a person who is stuck and wants to get unstuck?  Or a person who knows you are stuck and wants to stay stuck your judgements and denial?

Ah, and there truly lies a of potential consonance or dissonance.  

Whatever your choice in or out of the labor room:  “Everybody Breathe!”

(Ideas inspired out of  Jed McKenna’s third book in a trilogy entitled, Spiritual Warfare)

Colony Collapse Disorder – The Tipping Point

February 8th, 2009


We have heard of ADD, (Attention Deficit Disorder) ADHD, (Attention Deficit-Hyperactivity Disorder) PIT, (Pitocin, an artificial oxytocin to get labor contractions started)  ROM, (Rupture of Membranes, breaking of waters during labor), VBAC, (Vaginal Birth After Cesarean) but have you heard of CCD, Colony Collapse Disorder?  I hadn’t  until I read the recent issue of Yoga + , (Spring 2009)  Lorrain Dusky’s article on “The Future of the Bees”.  Without the healthy cross-pollination of 25 million flowers per day…we can kiss many simple nutritional pleasures in our lives goodbye. Melons, apples, coffee, blueberries, cherries, cucumbers…shall I go on? 

As I read the article, I began to see many correlations between the world of bees collapsing and the world of birth at a critical mass.  And who is responsible for both?  Of course, we humans.  

Industrial beekeepers scratch their heads and wonder what the possible cause of CCD could be? Medical caregivers scratch their heads and wonder what the cause of the rise of inductions/epidurals/ cesareans/infirtility could be? 

In Rowan Jacobsen’s book, Fruitless Fall,  he takes a look at how far the bees have been taken from their natural environment, where they eat a varied diet, and thrive to the monocropped fields of industrial farming today where they struggle and die.  Sound familiar?  So what is this ‘industrialized agriculture disease?’ Chemically fertilized fields of single crops: no biodiversity, not local pollinators, no curbs on diseases than can spread across countries through the packing and shipping.  Hmmmm…not only is the care in a disarray, the stress levels put on bees is outrageous: trucked around countries to do their pollination duties, viral infections on the rise mites, chemicals to kill the mites, exotic pathogens, antibiotics  and on and on.  Sound familiar?  Diets of CORN SYRUP, for DECADES.  As Jacobson states, “GIving them corn syrup is like giving us nothing but soda when we are sick.”  As Dusky mentions in her article, “Migrant labor, bee style, One job to the next, no vacations and lousy food to boot.”

Queen bees are dying off in 6 months instead of a couple of years!  The baby bees are weak and subject to all sorts of viruses. Forager bees are listless and exhausted, a perfect breeding ground for the mites.  Bees die off in the fields.  Not only is this happening in the United States, but Canada, Asia, South America and China.  Sound familiar in the birth world?

Jacobson even suggest, “If the bees lived a life they evolved for, staying in one place, having a variety of flowers to visit, which would give them the different nutrients they needed, the corn syrup addition might be okay.”   Dusky continues with, “But when a cheap diet of sucrose comes at the end of a long list of stressors, you get a tipping point and …CCD.”

So what is our ‘tipping point’ in the birth world? The fact that in 3 decades cesarean sections have gone from under 7% nationally to 35+% today.  Faster, easier, more convenient and financially profitable procedures. Why waste the time on letting a woman’s body go into labor naturally when the drugs and pharmacuticals exist today to expediate the process.  Step away from nature, at what cost?  The World Health Organization (WHO) states that no region in the world is justified in having a cesarean rate greater than 10-15%.  

“Inductions and epidurals?’  Another ‘tipping points’ in the field of birth. All creating more opportunities for us to distance ourselves from nature and our own natural chemicals and allow the ‘machines’ to determine, when, how long and how much time. 

I remember, seeing a birth film by, David Sotnik, “Fate of the Earth, Fate of Birth,” (1997) where midwife, Candace McCracken stated, “I’m worried that natural childbirth is becoming an endangered species.”  Birth and cultural anthropologist, Robbie Davis Floyd draws a line between women who choose to ‘drop down into biology’ and those who do not choose to ‘drop down into biology’, thus creating two completely different cultures.  One that tunes in and trusts the nature of their bodies and the other that sees and experiences their bodies to be a ‘vehicle’ and the baby to be the ‘end result’. A culture of a mechanistic, detached society that does not choose to be in their bodies by even breastfeeding.  Where do you draw the line?

There is hope for the bees though, with a Buddhist, Bee Mystic, in Vermont, Kirk Webster.  Instead of opting for chemicals to kill his crop of mites, he allowed the bees to die, took the survivors and bred them with each other and introduced hardy Russian bees into the hive.  Patience was the key, because he had to wait a decade without income. (OH HORRORS for the industrial world of bees)  The result was developing bees largely resistant  to mites and letting the bees build their own V-shaped organic hives. No bad diets…only a variety of apple blossoms to feed off of.  Staying local, no trucking around the country.  The Bee’s needs were met.

As with any collapse or disorder, there is a silver lining.   Colony Collapse Disorder opended the world’s eyes to the fact that agriculture depends on honeybees. Biodiversity is what we humans crave and need for survival.

So, what is our silver lining in the birth world? What are we going to do to bring back our connection to nature, our natural secretion of hormones, healthy vibrant food sources and trusting the process of labor and birth?  I put it in your hands, your words, your actions.  

If the bees can make it with the help of one small farmer at a time, remembering it takes patience, trust, good strong genes and getting back to nature…it might be a helpful formula for the birth community to regroup, realign and tip the point in another direction.

Water Birth Anyone?

January 23rd, 2009

So you’ve decided to have a water birth…have you asked  crucial questions about this choice?  Are you willing to let go of the possibly of birthing your baby in water?  Are you willing to let go of the fact you may or not even want to be in water during the labor or birth?  Would you be open to actually listening to your body and your baby moment to moment and if the insight moves you to ‘get out of the tub’ at the moment of the birth,  would you be willing to listen to that?  What if you’ve been in the water for over four hours and it’s time to get out, and you don’t want to?

Becoming attached to outcomes is the greatest saboteur. Whether it’s deciding to have an epidural or birth your baby in a tub of water, let it go and see what happens. It’s a great lesson to relinquish the ego and trust whatever unfolds to the highest good of you and your baby.  Now, this doesn’t mean you don’t rent the tub, do a trial set up and follow through with your plans.  It’s about keeping things in perspective and releasing the attachments.

After teaching childbirth education for the last 22 years, I advise people to keep options and possibilities open;  from having a baby in the kitchen 1/2 hour after the membranes rupture to ending up with a cesarean section.  Labor and birth is a mystery.  Being aware of thoughts and emotions each moment, keeps one tuned in and tapped into the intuitive reservoir of information and hormones.  Choices become effortless, clarity prevails and mothers and babies move through the ancient rite of passage called birth with less resistance and releasing control.

Because this planet, our bodies and babies are predominantly water, most people have an affinity to be in water.  Whether it’s a shower or bath, the experience of water, absence of gravity, brings a sense of softness, openness, pliability to the skin, bones, ligaments and tendons, not only in the mother, also in the baby.

So, enjoy the stories, the research, the photographs in this website and dream of welcoming your baby into the world with a sense of connection, ease and love.

If you would like to see some videos on waterbirth from the Birth Balance Website, go to:   http://www.birthbalance.com/videos/waterbirth.asp

Becoming the Dreamer of the Dream

January 22nd, 2009



When people ask you if you remember your dreams or not, what do you say? “Oh, I never dream…or I don’t remember my dreams…I don’t believe in dreams…I use to remember my dreams and now I don’t…I dream all the time in technicolor!”  Well,  let me tell you, there is more to dreaming than dreaming. Meaning, dreams don’t just happen when you are asleep…they are happening  right now, as you are reading this.  You are in a ‘waking state dream.’  You might have daydreams in the waking state dream, and dreams when you sleep.  The crucial question is, are you ‘awake’ or ‘asleep’ in any of your dream states?   What does it mean to be awake? What does it mean to be asleep?

‘Awake’ is when you are ‘aware’ of what is going on around you moment to moment.  You live in a state of responding vs. reacting. You let go of attachments to things, comments, ideas, whether positive or negative. ‘Asleep’ is when you take things personally, believe in victimhood, attach yourself to comments, ideas, your body, things, and spend time reacting to everything.

In a world which is basically in a state of madness and fear, (asleep), staying awake can be a bit of a challenge. There is that ray of hope and change still permeating the atmosphere, globally from the Inauguration activities.  And how long will the ‘glow’ last in your life, whether you are awake, daydreaming or sleeping?

Where do you live?  How do you integrate with your environment?  Where are your thoughts?  Do you even believe it’s possible to be living, eating, breathing ‘awakeness’ in your life?  If you don’t believe, you won’t receive. That’s the way the energies work.  When you become aware of the subtleties of life and where your mind is based on what you feel, good or bad, is the key to what you draw into your life.

After 22 years of being in the birth world, I find during the labors and births, the team leaves the planet and go to the moon.  My waking state dream and few sleeping state moments, during the labor become filled with clear, strong important images.  I have learned to listen to the clear inner voice coming through as I tune in and let go of anything that might impede my resistance to the moment. And magic happens.

The Birth of the Blog

January 20th, 2009



     

January 20, 2009: A day of hope, tears, change, inspiration, humility, new found freedom and possibilities of something different, than what has been before.  What better day to begin my blog, my dreams, my rockets of desire for change within each woman and partner preparing to carry a child, change within each woman and partner carrying a child, change within each and every medical and/or birth caregiver. Changes that release the fear, embrace the trust and create the opportunity for redefining childbirth.  We can choose a different history. We can plant healthier seeds.  A mutual investment of energy, understanding and knowledge, by starting with ourselves.  

What are we feeling?  What are we thinking? What are we saying? Most importantly what are we DOING with those thoughts, words and feelings, moment to moment? Everything carries energy and emits a frequency. How will we step into the future to inspire the world with each and every child’s potential whether in uetero or out?  We must work together in this time of awakening toward a better age. Emotions birthed by the sacrifices of those who came before, teach us there CAN be another way. How?  

Through taping into human energy potential and available resources inside and outside each and every one of us. May we realize it is not one person who will make the change.  It is the change that has been sparked in each one of us to do it better and collectively ripple out to the planet. We are indeed experiencing a shift of consciousness.

How will you ride the wave?


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